admin | February 27, 2010
How each of the spouses imagines their future co-existence? This question is the axiom many couples do not even suspect about. Our husbands (regardless of their nationality) marry us in order to free themselves of the burden of their own problems and are not eager to take on ours. The opposite is also true: women get married hoping to breathe freely and to acquire a strong support rather than a tangle of resistances. How can the spouses combine their mind pictures? What can they do so that there would be enough of freedom and wealth in the family for both of them?
Category: Empowering Each Other, Family Matters, Home Sweet Home, Letters As They Are |
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Tags: a holiday every day, combat zone, Commitment to Change, different views on our future together, Happy Marriage, he does not need what I am willing to give him, higher power, International Couple, Mutual Understanding, Nurturing Each Other, tears of joy, the intervention of Higher Power, the victim of failed relationships, Walpurgis Night, what men expect from the new marriage with a Russian wife, why are we getting married? the picture in my head, why are we together?, why do men marry?
admin | February 26, 2010
I was sitting at the table that was set for a festive dinner and cried wiping tears from my face. And he sat opposite me smiling, pleased with the impression he had made. It was on March 8, the International Women’s Day, in the distant Southern Hemisphere, at one of the New Zealand islands. No one around had ever heard of this holiday, even the Americans whose country it seemed to come from. My husband specifically asked all women we met if they knew about it … They just shrugged their shoulders, except Russians, who live as a separate community there. And from Russia, I received lots of congratulations.
Category: Family Matters |
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Tags: a Russian-speaking wife, a special gift, changing traditional approaches, Emotions, energy flow, Feelings, holiday celebration, Improvement, insights and discoveries, International Couple, international families, overcoming resistance
admin | February 17, 2010
I received a confirmation that a lack of understanding in an international marriage is not only a personal problem but a problem of different cultures too. We have very different points of view about life as compared to the Americans.
For Russians, these things are important: house, comfort, homemade food and warmth, communication over a cup of tea in the kitchen. For the Americans, coziness in the house is a relative concept. Their view of comfort often implies that making a house cozy is just a waste of money. As far as their favorite food is concerned, a hamburger is the best thing in the world, though my dear husband eats everything that I cook with pleasure now.
Category: Home Sweet Home, Letters As They Are |
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Tags: a Russian-speaking wife, asking for help, Emotions, Feelings, International Couple, Mutual Understanding, New Home, Nurturing Each Other
admin | February 12, 2010
Oh, that financial (in-)dependence in marriage! How often a mere mention of some upcoming expenses gives rise to disputes and quarrels in a family! How do different families solve this problem? Each international family searches for and finds its own solutions that satisfy the needs of both spouses. Below, you will find a couple of ways to address this issue based on the experience of two different international couples.
Category: Family Matters, Letters As They Are, The Family Budget |
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Tags: a joint bank account, credit cards, dealing with money issues, debit cards, financial independence, freedom of choice, my wife is from Russia, ownership, personal bank account, self-sufficiency in marriage, The Family Budget, the financial independence of the spouses
admin | February 8, 2010
I think you know how difficult it is, after many years of self-reliant, independent and pretty much secure life, to change habits so that both you and your man could be comfortable. A lot has to be reassessed and discussed. We talk almost every day for long periods of time. Sometimes we come across very sore spots.
Category: Family Matters, Home Sweet Home, Letters As They Are, No category |
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Tags: a happy sign, a Russian-speaking wife, Commitment to Change, Improvement, International Couple, international families, Mutual Understanding, New Home, preparing for the wedding ceremony, take meaningful steps, what should be present equally at a wedding
