Happy Life with a Russian Wife

Posted By admin on August 23, 2010

Continuing our conversation about wealth, I am going to reveal a terrible secret to you, which the Boy Nipper Pipper would have never betrayed to the enemy. But I am not the Boy Nipper Pipper, I love life, and not someday, but right here and now. In addition, I am terribly afraid of pain; I cannot stand torture, both physical and emotional. I faint even from the look of injection needles, and when brought to watch scary movies with flesh devouring or the details of surgical operations, I close my eyes and ears tight until my husband lets me know that the worst is behind.

So I do not keep any secrets at all.

But absolutely every one of us possesses this dreadful secret. Not everyone wants to admit it though. But finding it out is very easy. How? – I am going to tell a little later. And now …

Now, there it is – the DREADFUL SECRET. In each of us, there lives a very hungry creature. In each of us, with a very rare exception, and you are not the exception for sure. This creature might masquerade under different monikers, but its real name is Victim.

Most people feed this extremely insatiable creature without noticing it, and it grows to such an extent that only a cover remains from them.

Like any infection, it responds to treatment, which is simple enough. But first, as always, diagnostics. It is easy to identify the Victim that governs us when you notice the following:

• Instead of openly expressing your needs, you expect others to read your mind (and read it correctly) and then quickly meet them in a way that suites you.
• If there is no such “mind reader” by your side, then you try to show people near you how wrong they do
• You use this technique with your family members particularly often
• You get offended when these people still do not understand what you want
• You carefully sustain, nourish and cherish this resentment of yours
• You say “no,” “I cannot,” “It’s not for me,” “It is impossible” when you are offered to do something else or in a different way
• You willingly listen to and keep conversations about misfortunes
• You browse forums at which they give out free advice for all occasions
• You also give advice willingly
• You shed tears on any occasion
• You notice something negative more often than something positive
• You are very much afraid of being “wrong”
• You get terribly afraid when someone raises voice at you, or stamps his/her foot in your presence
• You are sure that you know everything about yourself and others and that there is nothing exceeding your knowledge
• You are confident that there is only one correct model of the world, which is yours
• You believe that life is scary and that the world is falling into the abyss
• You believe willingly into any nonsense in news reports and especially in blogs
• You readily criticize presidents in the heat of the moment (no matter whose – Russian, American, Ukrainian or Honduran, even if you are not sure whether there is a president at all)
• You believe that in other countries, people live in a more honest and fair way
• You absolutely do not appreciate your achievements
• You do not have a personal space neither in your house, nor in your soul
• You infringe other people’s space without knocking, and consider the personal space of close people to be your property
• You delegate decisions regarding your fate to other people
• You assume that the closest people will die without your care
• You look for excuses of the fact that you do nothing to change your life
• You believe that you should do everything yourself and only yourself
• You like to feel pity for others and rush to their help, even if you are not asked to
• You feel guilty when you do not work for everybody’s benefit 24 hours a day
• You heroically go to work even when you are sick
• With that, you suffer that others do not appreciate you
• You have your favorite Tyrants, with whom you would never part on your own will, although you assert the contrary in word
• Of course, you have got your favorite Rescuers, who are eager to listen to you, sympathize with you, take pity on you, assure you of your being right, mop up your tears and snot, but they would not want to hear anything about your achievements. Because when you have the achievements, they have nobody to save and they no longer see the point in your relationships.
• And, by the way, when you forget to share your achievements, especially with people you willingly report to on your sorrows and misfortunes.

Naturally, I do not claim this list to be complete. I do not mind if you add your examples to help detect the parasite called Victim better.

There is only one treatment in case of being taken ill with a Victim. STOP FEEDING YOUR INTERNAL VICTIM, and it will shrink and then die in bed. And you will be free to create, fly, be, have and do whatever you want, in your joy and that of the world.

Categories: Empowering Each Other, Life Without Limits, No category
Tags: how to confront your internal victim, internal victim