Liubov | August 6, 2010
Imagine that you are going to marry a bright, intelligent, decent and sensitive man with a great sense of humor, who, without a doubt, loves you. And then, when you arrive to his country, you meet just the opposite: a dark and closed person, who resists the slightest attempt of your intrusion into his life. In addition, you have neither driver’s license nor money (that is, you are absolutely dependent on him regarding the transportation and inhabitancy), you have no connections, your knowledge of the foreign language is pretty poor and you have no idea of what you could do to succeed in the new environment. This was my starting point of living here.
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admin | June 3, 2010
At first, our approaches were the sticking point, when we were sort of diametrically opposed to each other. But in reality those approaches to life turned to be cooperative. When we realized that, and when we started to research further on, those turned to be very complementary approaches, very complementary strategies. Because when I am rushing forward without taking into consideration some important details, my husband slows me down and asks important questions, and sometimes helps me to work on them.
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admin | May 27, 2010
This is particularly true about money issues. When I visit forums of women living overseas, I see a lot of angry and desperate comments and topics. When I ask them, “Why not discuss it with your husbands and simply resolve the issues?” the chorus of voices rises. Those voices say, “He supports me as is,” or “He is obliged to support me, but he is a jerk (excuse my French) who does not want to understand my needs.” All this comes from misunderstanding, and the misunderstanding comes from a very low self-esteem, or from excessive demands, or from some unconscious internal beliefs. But when all this is realized, when all this is articulated and discussed, many problems can be avoided. And you are an example for me in this sense, because you did not only dream about your love come true, but chose it by saying some important things, thus having escaped big problems.
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Tags: a Russian-speaking wife, adaptation period, Commitment to Change, Happy Marriage, International Couple, interview with Russian women living abroad, Stages of Relations
admin | May 19, 2010
It is this point that I have marked as the time of change, on the basis of the Chinese proverb “May you live in the era of change,” which has sort of a negative connotation. I say “sort of” because we ourselves attach this negative meaning to it. In fact, the ?poque of change, including the Chinese one, is the time when everything changes. When you cannot live as you had lived before, you have already outgrown some boundaries, and the new are yet to come. I believe it is a very rewarding time. And my goal was to help people see that good side, the resourceful side of change and pass it without fear. Once I created my blog, the era of global change started with the global crisis, and the importance of my work became much more serious than I had expected. But I like it.
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Liubov | April 14, 2010
By the way, American men posting “want a wife” ads in their newspapers, write about their occupation in detail, describing their hobbies and things they could “accept” in their partners. Reading Russia’s ads, I cannot make away with the thought that people choose furniture. Then it becomes horrible when they offer themselves as bedside tables or horses – describing their height, weight, eye color and number of teeth. Gosh, I think, why do you underestimate yourself so much? Are you all just housewives and fools?
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Tags: another story, life after divorce, seeking help, shoulder the burden of your partner's concerns, the guarantee of happiness, the victims of marriage scams, to admit the need in having a loving partner, what happens to Cinderellas after the wedding?, what you are willing to pay for happiness
