Happy Life with a Russian Wife

Have an International Marriage?

Your Wife Speaks Russian?

Want A Great Improvement in Your Relationships?

Then read this letter from beginning to end, and decide if you are ready to commit to the changes.

How did your marriage begin? Were you looking forward to the moment when the woman you love would move to your place and stay with you? Were your expectations filled both with anxiety and excitement? Anxiety about whether your wife would be able to succeed in a new place? And excitement at realizing you wouldn’t be lonely any more?

You will be surprised to learn how many men feel the same way after making a decision to marry a Russian-speaking bride and inviting her to their countries, to their houses, and into their personal lives.

And then it happened. If your everyday reality became even better than you have expected, you are really a lucky person, because successful international couples are very rare indeed. But even if you are that lucky, your relations might not have developed as smoothly as you would have liked. For example, recall the first days of your living together as a married couple. Didn’t you feel a pang of anxiety when your wife started to occupy the space in the house which had previously been all yours, and began to rearrange it in her way? How did you react when it came to shopping for her, or to setting up her bank account, and other unforeseen expenses? Were you genuinely happy for her when she received a green card?

In fact, almost all couples go through the same stages of relationship building in marriage. But in addition to the common challenges that accompany those stages, international families face such factors as the spouses’ profound differences:

• in mentalities,
• in cultural backgrounds,
• in previous experiences, and
• In worldviews.

Unfortunately, even the power of love and a sincere desire to overcome the challenges are not enough to improve the relations due to lack of effective communication skills and the language barrier.

By the way, many husbands tend to overlook or ignore the situation at hand, because it is easier to maintain the appearance that all is well than to initiate changes. But this approach does not alter the current state of affairs that is much more acutely felt by the woman.

Why?

• It is she who has burnt the bridges and left her previous life behind.
• It is she who has found herself in the new conditions alone, without significant support from the habitual inner circle.
• It is she who feels as if she were in “a blockade of misunderstanding.”

Situations may be very different – from a misunderstanding between you both, or between your family and environment and your wife, to open confrontation between the parties, and these difficulties are not solved in time.

“What Can I Do To Overcome These Challenges?”

To do it, you have to realize the NEED for CHANGE and EXPEND some EFFORT to achieve it. In this situation you are the very person capable of helping your wife.

But what if you do not know how else you can help her?

If you believe you’ve tried everything to improve the situation?

Then we can help you! We are well aware of the difficulties faced by international families. Our online project, “A Happy Life With A Russian Wife” is created for such couples like yours to help you build a successful marriage. We have made it bilingual so that both you and your wife would have an equally clear understanding of its content.

During her participation in this exclusive online training on “How To Help Close People Be Happier With Us,” the RESULTS will be not long in coming:

• Your wife will be able to better understand herself and you and successfully adapt to the new conditions of her life;

• She will receive effective tools for constructive communication not only with you, but with all her new environment, and will be able to immediately use them in practice; and
• She will be able to see new opportunities for self-realization in the current situation and start trying them out during the training. And not only that.

“What Are My Benefits?”

• The relations will improve not only between you and your wife. Her communication with your environment and her new circle of acquaintances, e.g. your children, relatives, colleagues, neighbors, acquaintances and friends will also improve;

• You both will be able to establish personal boundaries instead of building walls of mistrust and misunderstanding;
• You will find out that your wife has become happier and more understanding, and that you are able to meet her needs;
• You will be more sure in the successful future of your marriage;
• You will save a lot of money on consultations of Family Relations experts, because the training, including bonuses, costs only $ 250;
• And, most importantly, you will be able to establish partnership relations in your marriage.

“My name is Veronica Hapko, I come from Moldova. I’ve lived in New Jersey for seven years. I work for a PR company, and I am a married for four years. My husband is American, a nice guy. Our interest in each other was strong, and the difference in our views on life was even stronger. I decided to do something about regulating our relations as soon as I realized that those different views were unlikely to help us create a harmonious family. It was a great training! And I am smiling because there was nothing to break, alter, and build anew. Well, I just opened my eyes and saw what was going on in my own head! A couple of exercises from Liubov, our coach, made me pay attention to what was really happening! I had thought that all the stereotypes belonged to my husband, and discovered that I had lots of them too. My husband and I finally came to discussing them and helping in understanding each other. I felt such a gratitude to my husband for being the person he is and for everything that he does! I saw some of his features which I had not noticed previously. I also realized that many barriers I came across turned to be illusion-like and unnecessary, but I had incorporated them until it was no longer clear, which of them were mine and which were not. Now I see very clearly where the problem is imaginary, and where it is real. And I always find a way on how to solve it peacefully and amicably! It’s ridiculous sometimes, but the language barrier still exists, although certainly less and less. For myself, I had decided long ago that if I want to be happy in marriage, I need to do everything in my power to make it work. The result is evident: I’m at that level of relationship I dreamed about three years ago.“

I Want To Build My Relationship Differently!

“What Other Skills Will My Wife Learn?”

• After participating in the exclusive online training on “How To Help Close People Be Happier With Us,” which has helped over 100 Russian women abroad, your wife will learn to find non-standard and efficient solutions to recurring situations, especially when it seems that nothing can be changed.
• Training in the coaching style will help your wife find her own effective ways to solve problems in relations with her environment.
• Even if she is training alone, the strong support of the training group at the forum will help her apply and build new effective habits in relations with other people.
• Personal support of our coach will let your wife learn how to change her automatic reactions to the conscious and effective ones.

She will also learn to understand your true intentions, and other skills:

• To express her feelings so that others would understand her,
• To accept and understand your true concern for her, and
• To help close people grow and become happier.

“Do You Provide Any Bonuses And Discounts?”

• In addition to the training, your wife will get a free one-month participation in the club “Star Ladies’ Life,” which provides its strong support in incorporating new approaches to life.
• Along with the purchase of the training, your wife gets one professional coaching session free of charge.
• The nearest SALE of our trainings with terrific discounts up to 50% is on Feb 26- March-08, 2010,  to celebrate the International Women Day.

“Why Should I Trust you?”

• We can guarantee you a high professional level of delivering the training.
• The coach, Liubov Latypova, has successfully gone through the period of adaptation in an international marriage herself, and was able to build trusting partnership relations with her foreign husband and his family. Moreover, she became a successful business person after starting her life in another country from scratch. With her unique background (e.g. more than 10 years of working experience in international programs, a rich cross-cultural experience) and high professional qualification in the field of training and life coaching, she helps other international couples overcome similar challenges. Here’s the certificate confirming her qualification of a coach:

• We guarantee an individual approach to the objectives set by your wife
• We guarantee that your wife will find solutions to her problems, if she does all the exercises during the training.
• We ensure that the new knowledge and skills gained at the training will help your wife change her life significantly, and will also affect your marriage in the best possible way.

We will pay your money back if the training turns to be ineffective for her. Your wife will get the bonuses anyway:

• a month of free participation in the training support group, and
• a free professional coaching session.

But after the return of money neither you nor your wife can ever use our services.

“And what if I’m afraid to tell my wife that she needs a professional assistance?

What if this conversation would alienate her from me?”

This is one of the most frequently asked questions, because people often fear to spoil their relationships by talking honestly to each other.

In fact, no one except you and your wife can make choices on whether to change something in your lives or not. Participation in our training on “How To Help Close People Be Happier With Us” is in fact an OPPORTUNITY to improve your marriage and your wife’s relations with her new environment. But it will be lost for those who are afraid to take risks and act. Every day we make choices either in favor of the future (when exploring new horizons and consciously changing our lives for the better), or in favor of the past (when we change nothing or worsen the situation). Taking risks is always the choice in favor of the future.

Honestly, we have thought much of what advise we might give you so that the offer to take part in our training would sound ok for your wife. We have imagined a situation when you would come to your wife (who might still be angry with you after an argument) and say: “Honey, I’ve found a training for you about how to improve our marriage. Take part in it, please, it seems we have some misunderstanding.” Or this, “Honey, here I’ve found a coaching program for you on How To Help Close People Be Happier With Us. Will you participate?” And then our imagination unfolded completely hopeless scenarios, for example, in the first case, the wife might respond, “Training for me? That’s you who needs trainings, everything is fine with me, do not try to fix me.” And the similar answer appeared in the second case, “Your being unhappy with me is the reason for you to go to the training, not me.”

Having analyzed the imaginary reaction of your wife, we realized that the negative stereotypes were very strong in our perception of international couples, although our project team has long been committed to the strong relationship building values. Each couple is unique. Honestly, it does not matter how the stereotypical wives would react until there is a prospective that your wife would be grateful to you for showing that you care. In this case, it is important to assess the degree of trust between you and the desire to change your lives for the better.

The truth is that we do not know what will follow after you suggest your wife to get a professional coaching support. Yes, there is a risk that she would react negatively, or simply say no. But there is also a CHANCE to show your wife that you do care where your marriage is moving and that you are ready to invest in its improvement. How? – By giving her a special PRESENT, which is not a new dress or a trinket or something material, but which will very rewarding and sustainable for your relations, that is, paying for her participation in the special online training for Russian-speaking women.

In addition, you can propose her to be her partner during the training, with whom she will be practicing her exercises. So in fact, you both will be participating in the training, but you will have to pay for one person, and that person is she, because the training will be in Russian. In formulating your offer based on these motives, you will be able to convey to her that she is not alone and has a strong support for the implementation of the necessary changes you both need.

Besides, many women who had wished to participate in this training before did not do so simply because it was uncomfortable for them to ask a favor of their husbands to pay for their participation. This is also why you are reading this letter.

I made a big step in improving my family relations during the training “How To Help Close People Be Happier With Us.” I chose my husband as a partner to work with during the training. Thanks to it, I opened up many new things in the man with whom I have lived for eight years. It feels that only now we have begun to show each other our real sides… And before that, we had often “portrayed love and forgiveness” for fear of offending each other and cementing our pain inside… The most interesting thing is that the expression of real feelings and emotions only strengthened our marriage but not destroyed it, as we were both afraid! Nadezhda Kalinina (Geller). Graphic designer, artist. Married, has a seven-year-old son. Ekaterinburg (Russia).

I Want To Improve My Marriage!

P.S. In the end, we will remind you of the date very few foreign husbands know about. Even if they know they do not always remember how important this date might be for their Russian-speaking wives. It is “The International Women’s Day” celebrated on March 8, and for some reason only in the CIS countries. Just remember this date. Why?

If you read about it for the first time, you will be very surprised to learn the importance attached to this date by Russian-speaking women. And not just because it’s celebrated in spring, the time when Russia’s severe nature comes to life and the future promises new hopes and perspectives to people. For Russian women, March 8 is probably the only holiday when men and their whole environment make them compliments and acknowledge how much they value and respect them.

During this date, women are given all sorts of gifts – from flowers to new pots ( but please do not give your wife kitchen appliances as presents. This is equal to a set of tools for adjusting wiring in the house for your birthday present.)

What can you give her? Make your wife a unique gift: pay for her participation in the exclusive online training “How To Help Close People Be Happier With Us” with the 50% discount from February 26 to March 8! Your wife will appreciate it, because in addition to the training, she will get:

• a month of free participation in the training support group, and
• a free professional coaching session.

Take advantage of this opportunity NOW to improve your marriage!

So what do you have to do right now?

Step 1. Make the payment of $130 as soon as possible, no later than March 08, 2010 via PayPal payment system

Step 2. Share the participation link with your wife for her to proceed.

(you can use VISA, Master Card, American Express, and Discover) 130 USD Please confirm your payment by sending us an email to happyinterfamily@gmail.com

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